Saturday, December 29, 2012

The road less traveled

By M. Scott Peck
 
This is much that I agree with here, though I don't agree with all his conclusions.
 
Peck argues that discipline and love are necessary for spiritual growth... From Wikipedia;.;
 
Discipline
In The Road Less Traveled,[6] Peck talked of the importance of discipline. He described four aspects of discipline:
  • Delaying gratification: Sacrificing present comfort for future gains.
  • Acceptance of responsibility: Accepting responsibility for one's own decisions.
  • Dedication to truth: Honesty, both in word and deed.
  • Balancing: Handling conflicting requirements. Scott Peck talks of an important skill to prioritize between different requirements -- bracketing.
 
 
Love for peck is extending yourself to allow others to grow.
 
A life of love and discipline foists much responsibility on us. We can't be passive with our love. When we know better, we are obligated to act. Yet, we must be humble when we know better. Do we really know better, or are we just medaling and manipulating without respect for someone else's path. This balance of the two possibilities requires constant discipline.
 
Peck views laziness as being the cause of all sin. Rather than doing the work needed for disciplined love, we take the easy way out.
 
I don't agree with his conclusions though, that we each must grow towards God, to being God. That miracles, grace and serendipity are proof that God is out there.
 
For me, love and discipline are the way, but not because of God. Love and discipline are the way, because unless we bring them to society, we will live in  world that is unloving and undisciplined.


I reread this book in Jan of 2015. My overall impression hasn't changed, but new things popped out at me.

In the past month Mark attempted suicide after our breakup. This has colored what I think about love. This book has a short section on suicide.... Peck says clearly that if you can't live without someone, then you are a parasite and what you feel is not love. This feels good for me, though I wonder if I would latch onto anything that resolves me of any guilt related to Mark's actions.

I read this they day after I read "Man's Search for Meaning." Both books argue that love, responsibility and freedom form a triad needed for growth and happiness,  Without responsibility, you have the kind of free love that has no consequences and is little more then pleasant feelings. Without freedom you have dependency and overbearing control. Without love you just have the endless doing of meaningless stuff.  Balancing all three is the endless challenge of personal growth. 

The way we see the world

Some would have us see the world with nonjudgmental awareness. I have a strong affinity for these philosophies. At the same time, we can't abandon the notion of right and wrong. We can't abandon our feelings. The death of a loved one is more than disadvantageous to me. It hurts. Sure, my feelings may not be important, but I do feel them.
 
How much of the world's truth depends on what we see? I wish I could find the source for this quote, but it's something like 'The problem with science is that it measures what it expects to find.' If the reality is so different, so removed from what an experimenter  tries measures, then the experiment will only observe faint echoes of the truth, if that.
 
In my world then, if the truth of the universe, if the meaning of life, is so far different from what I can observe, then what I learn is a faint echo of reality. The little bit that meshes with what I expect to find.
 
Yet, I can learn things that have great impact on me. I can learn to love someone, and be loved in return. I can learn to help. I can learn techniques to be happy.
 
If the truth of the universe is far from what I can perceive, then the truth must be gigantic and important, because it's echo's on me are loud and profound.
 
Either that, or the truth isn't so far from what I see.
 
To what extent is the universe the other way around? That because I perceive something, I make up  a truth to explain it.
 
Some truths are not that way. I can't walk through walls. The inability to walk through walls is not a learned behavior. (How do I prove that? It's common sense) What of the social and philosophic constructions? Friendship? Love? Happiness? Do they exist as commons sense? Are they the product of what I expect to see?
 
 

Friday, December 28, 2012

How then, do I want to live the rest of my life? Is that just another way to ask "what is the meaning of life?"

Are my career, and my recreation, and my fiends, and good food, and good drink enough?

We seem to be hurting trough space and time with a brain that likes to trick us into believing that we have far more power, and far more control than we actually do. Yet, we can't deny that we have some impact on the world. We must push our selves to take another step forward in what we believe is the right direction.

Is happiness best pursued alone? Are there forms of cooperation or competition that can make two happier than one. If so, what are they?

I'm on a quiet vacation for the first time in a long time, For a while, I can sit an think. Perhaps I've been reading one too many "happiness' books. Either way, I want to get my thoughts down, and to develop them.

I have nine more days of vacation and no commitments. This is enough time to read a little, meditate a little, write a little, work around the house, and exercise. I want to put this time to good use.


Thursday, December 27, 2012

The procrastinators digest

By Timothy Pychyl

Just start... Do a draft, then fix it.

The Antidote-- happiness for people who can't stand positive thinking

By Oliver Burkeman


Burkeman is in favor of a more balanced view of happiness-- not the unbridled optimism that is so popular. Burkeman is more stoic, or Buddist.

Some points to remember

The nonjudgmental, and non attached nature of Stoicism and Buddhism can be very useful to happiness.  Bad things happen all the time, even in this world of plenty. We have to embrace them and accept them. They didn't happen because we failed, because we weren't optimistic enough.

Be careful setting goals. We don't know the full consequences of choosing a goal. Sometimes planning like a frog-- leaping from lily pad to lily pad, rather that planning way ahead to a goal is much more effective. In some extreme situations, people have given up there lives to achieve a goal, rather than accept failure.

Get over yourself. 99.9% of everything you think and do is only for yourself.

Safety is as much a feeling as it is reality. Stopping at nothing to be safe, is not safe. It results in security theater. It results in us spending our time and money on things that only make us feel safe.

Failure happens. We can learn much from failure.

We all die. We'd be better off realizing that every day, rather than hiding from it.

The Happiness Project

By Gretchen Rubin.

For one year, Rubin tried every trick, process, mental attitude and exercise that promised happiness. She was very methodical.

Some conclusions-- you become more happy by helping others being more happy, and by acting more happy yourself.

Some things I want to remember...

Spend your time out. Lost time is a lost resource. why not spend it all doing something of your own choosing? Why not spend it trying to make others happy? You may worry, that they will take advantage of you, and your generosity. That worry is not founded, especially if you surround yourself by people you love and trust

Rubin didn't meditate, but she did see the value in not being judgmental

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Sunday, December 9, 2012

Making it all work.

I re-read Allen's "Making it All Work" I'm taking it a little more to heart this time. I'm still far from implementing the "Getting Things Done" process, but, I do now have a daily review process, that's more than a to-do list. Just as important, I've stuck to this process for over 3 weeks now.

As I grow older, it's become important to have a personal process to deal with the stuff of life that doesn't demand my immediate attention. There are so many things that I want to do, that I would do if I thought to do them. Just because I don't spontaneously want to work on them doesn't mean they should never be done.

I'm becoming less "Stop and smell the roses" and more "Take one step forward in the right direction"

Saturday, November 10, 2012


Einstein on the difference between construct and principled thinking...

"We can distinguish various kinds of theories in physics. Most of them are constructive. They attempt to build up a picture of the more complex >phenomena out of the materials of a relatively simple formal scheme from which they start out. Thus the kinetic theory of gases seeks to reduce >mechanical, thermal, and diffusional processes to movements of molecules -- i.e., to build them up out of the hypothesis of molecular motion. When we >say that we have succeeded in understanding a group of natural processes, we invariably mean that a constructive theory has been found which covers >the processes in question.
Along with this most important class of theories there exists a second, which I will call "principle-theories." These employ the analytic, not the synthetic, >method. The elements which form their basis and starting-point are not hypothetically constructed but empirically discovered ones, general characteristics >of natural processes, principles that give rise to mathematically formulated criteria which the separate processes or the theoretical representations of >them have to satisfy. Thus the science of thermodynamics seeks by analytical means to deduce necessary conditions, which separate events have to >satisfy, from the universally experienced fact that perpetual motion is impossible.
The advantages of the constructive theory are completeness, adaptability, and clearness, those of the principle theory are logical perfection and security >of the foundations. The theory of relativity belongs to the latter class."

Monday, November 5, 2012

Mindfullness II

I see that I'm not a lone with my criticism of meditation. The following quote is specifically about mindfulness meditation...

Gudo Wafu Nishijima criticizes the use of the term of mindfulness and idealistic interpretations of the practice from the Zen standpoint:
However recently many so-called Buddhist teachers insist the importance of 'mindfulness.' But such a kind of attitudes might be insistence that Buddhism might be a kind of idealistic philosophy. Therefore actually speaking I am much afraid that Buddhism is misunderstood as if it was a kind of idealistic philosophy. However we should never forget that Buddhism is not an idealistic philosophy, and so if someone in Buddhism reveres mindfulness, we should clearly recognize that he or she can never be a Buddhist at all.[25]
Muho Noelke, the abbot of Antaiji, explains the pitfalls of consciously seeking mindfulness.
We should always try to be active coming out of samadhi. For this, we have to forget things like "I should be mindful of this or that". If you are mindful, you are already creating a separation ("I - am - mindful - of - ...."). Don't be mindful, please! When you walk, just walk. Let the walk walk. Let the talk talk (Dogen Zenji says: "When we open our mouths, it is filled with Dharma"). Let the eating eat, the sitting sit, the work work. Let sleep sleep.[26]

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

The Emotional Life of your Brain

by Richard J. Davidson
and, Sharon Begley

I have mixed feelings about this book. Much of the book covers the biological basis for emotional style, how to determine what your emotional style is, and how to slightly tweak your style if it's holding your back...

Emotional style covers six traits which can all be measured in an fMRI-- Outlook, Sensitivity to Context, Social Intuition, Self Awareness, Attention, Resilience.

Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm having problems remembering the difference between "Sensitivity to Context" and "Social Intuition"

The book covers the experiments that lead to this discovery, and exercises that would help one increase or decrease there response to each style.

The book also has a large section on meditation, which actually turned me off of this topic. The benefits of mediation have been popping up in popular research. The book includes a history of how it became popular-- it seams that many of core neuro-emotion researchers were into forms of Buddhism. Not that I'm against Buddhism, just the bias is now more apparent to me. If these authors and researches had been into interpretive dance, would the benefits of interpretive dance be the topic?

Not that I doubt the benefits of meditation. It's just that I am no longer confident of the benefits of mediation relative to other choices.

The book discusses that monks who have gone through thousands of hours of compassion meditation and as a result have distinct signatures in the fMri's of their brains. What if I don't have thousands of hours to dedicate to compassion meditation? What if I instead spent thousands of hours actually being compassionate?

There are benefits to mindfulness mediation. What If I skip the mediation, and pay attention to what I am doing with nonjudgmental awareness?

The book hints at these questions, but never answers them.
 

Saturday, October 13, 2012

Thinking fast and slow...

http://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman/dp/0374275637

by Daniel Kahneman.

A good book that covers the way we think. Of the many brain quirks Kahenman covers in this book, he makes the point that we can more easily spot errors in jundment in others, than in ourselves. And he hopes to enrich our vocubulary when we do so.

He doesn't cover how we should accomplish this. This raises good questions... How do I solicit feedback without becomming too uncertain? How can I give this feeback without being insulting? Of course he doesn't answer these. If there was an easy answer to those questions, then life would be very different.

Thinking fast and slow covers the two styles of thought that we have-- fast and emotional, or slow and more deliberate, Our, our experiencing self, and our remembering self. These two selves have different wants and needs, which can be the source of many of our internal contradictions.

He makes the point that when we are very duration blind. For example, when we look back on an event, we tend to compess our feelings about the event into the peak, and the end, ommiting the duration. We will have similar feelings about a 3 day vacation, or a week long vacation, if both vacations had the same high point, and the same end. This memory compression can lead to many strange decisions.

He argues that for real happiness, we need to focus not only on the peak and the end, but the average happiness through out.

I've read a number of books like this; neuro-psycho-behavior-economic books. The studies that comprise these books are starting to blur together. It's difficult to take the core of truth in these books, and translate it to everyday life.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Leadership and Self-Deception

Leadership and Self-Deception has become a classic book for modern managers. I'm a little luke-warm about it.

Don't get me wrong. The L&SD makes some important points...
  • Blame and finger-pointing are wasteful; dangerous even.
  • Blame and finger-pointing create self-fulfilling problems. If I blame someone for a problem and point fingers, then I get to stop trying to solve the problem. That someone now gets to point fingers at me as I have given up trying to solve the problem. We both get to say "Not my fault" and point fingers. This cycle of self-deception is very destructive.
  • You can't change other people. You can focus on what you can do to make a difference.
  • Not doing what you believe is right, is self betrayal which leads to self deception.

Why am I luke-warm about it? It's not that deep. There is a lack of documented research behind this book. It all smacks of a sales pitch for courses from the Arbinger Institute.

The book also glosses over priorities, urgency and importance. There is little more guidance than "Focus on those around you. Trust us... you won't be overwhelmed with an unending list of things that you must do"

There is also no mention of self doubt. I can't count the number of times I've been in a situation where I don't know what the right thing to do is. Or maybe I think I do, but I'm unsure. What then? Am I betraying myself if I doubt myself?

There is little discussion of martyrdom or co-dependence. Sometimes you can do too much for other people. They will take advantage of this. This is compensated a little by a good discussion of giving hard feedback, v.s. soft feedback v.s. blame. At the same time, it doesn't tackle the question "When should you push someone out of your life?" Will a battered wife solve her problems by thinking outside of the box?

Finally, using L&SD naively leads to out-of-site-out-of-mind behavior. People forget that they have feelings and obligations for people that don't regularly keep in contact with. Of course I must prioritize. Of course my priorities may take me away from those around me in this moment. Am I really betraying myself if I do this?

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Imagine: How Creativity Works

by Jonah Lehrer

I was half way through this book when the controversy hit-- the made up quotes, the copied  passages. It darkened my spirit for the book, which is a shame because it's good reading. Lehrer explores the different types of creativity and how to support them.

Things I want to remember.
1. Contructive criticism is more affective than brain storming.
2. In groups, great ideas come most often when the group has a mix of people who are used to working together, and people who are new ot the group.
3. There are phases to every idea. A great idea must be iterated and polished on for a long time. This can be far more work than actually having the idea.
4. The initial cut of Finding Nemo was so bad that Disney delayed re-signing a distribution deal with Pixer. Disney thought the movie would flop. It was through iteration, polishing and plussing, that Finding Nemo became great

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Proficient Motorcycling...

By David Hough.

Very detailed and thoughtful writings about many aspects of motorcycling. I recommend you read a chapter, then go out and try it.

Make Your Point

by Bob Elliott and Kevin Carroll.

Make Your Point (MYP) is one of those books that have an over explored simple theses. I think MYP would be much better off as course material and lessons to practice. But hey...

The main thing I want to remember from MYP... the Diamond. This is a 'speach' pattern they recommend for all settings...

1. Attention.
2. Main Topic.
3. Preview 1, 2, 3
4. Sub-Topic #1, Sub-Topic #2, Sub-Topic #3
5 Summaries 1,2,3
6 Conclusion
7 Action

Notice there are three sub-topics in this speech. The book strongly recommends that you always include sub-topics. No more, no less. Three sub-topics in a speech makes keeps it from being too long, or too short. Too detailed, or too simple.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Kurt Vonnegut

In a fit of madness, (or was it self improvement?) I decided to educate myself on Kurt Vonnegut. I bought Slaughterhouse Five, Cat's Cradle & The Sirens of Titan.

Vonnegut is a very engaging writer. He writes deceptively simple books for someone

Vonnegut has a regular theme in his books on the limitations of free will. If you can see into the future, then do you have free will? If someone from the future tells you of your future, then do you have free will? Are you still responsible for your actions? If you have implanted happy memories, then have you lived a happy life?

"I was a victim of a series of accidents, as are we all..."




Saturday, July 21, 2012

1491

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/1491-charles-c-mann/1100618256?ean=9781400032051

This is an interesting book that tries to construct the history of North America before Columbus arrived. It has a few exciting and controverial ideas in it-- that Nature is not normative and that Native Americans tended and farmed the forests. Burning them every year in some parts of North america. Spreading edible trees in South America.

That the idea of an unchanging wilderness is wrong. Species come and go, wax and wane. A warm century will cause some animals and plants to spread. A cold century will the previous successors to die out. New plants and animals will take over. Another warm century later on will cause a different set of plants and animals to grow, not the same set that thrived the previous warm century. The winderness can radically change over time. Our modern idea that natural winderness is unchanging is probably not helpful.

The winderness we know today is not the winderness the Indias had in 1491, which was different than the winderness of 10,000 BC.  The vast herds of buffalo that roamed the plains in the 1600's and 1700's were probably there not because vast herds of buffalo are natural in North America, but because the Indians who hunted the buffalo and kept them in check, died from small pox. Without the Indians hunting the buffalo, the buffalo numbers skyrocketed.

Situations Matter

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/situations-matter-sam-sommers/1100480606

Situations Matter shares a theme with Gladwell's Outliers. That the situation that you are in has a great influence on what you do, even more so that character.

Give a caring helpful person a to-do list and a sense of urgency, and they will ignore someone in need of help just as readaly as any selfish person.

Of all the qualities we look for in our mates, proximity may be the most important. More than any other quality, for every mile you put between two people, the odds that they will meet and get married pluments. Yet, if you were to ask someone why they fell in love, proximity would not come up.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

From http://www.iwillteachyoutoberich.com/blog/time-management-how-an-mit-postdoc-writes-3-books-a-phd-defense-and-6-peer-reviewed-papers-and-finishes-by-530pm/..

Time management: How an MIT postdoc writes 3 books, a PhD defense, and 6+ peer-reviewed papers — and finishes by 5:30pm

November 19, 2009 · 136 comments
I’m always on the lookout for “hidden gems,” or people who are doing remarkable work that the whole world hasn’t caught on to, yet.
Today, I asked my friend Cal Newport to illustrate how he completely dominates as a post-doc at MIT, author of multiple books, and popular blogger. How does he do it all?
Cal writes one of the best blogs on the Internet: Study Hacks. His guest post shows how you can take I Will Teach You To Be Rich principles — plus many others — and integrate them into a way to use your time effectively.
Below, you’ll learn:
  • How to use fixed-schedule productivity — similar to the Think, Want, Do Technique — to consciously choose what you want to work on and ignore worthless busywork
  • When to say no — and how to do it
  • How a $60,000-a-speech professional manages his time
  • Case study: How to use email for maximum time productivity
Read on.

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From Cal:

I recently conducted a simple experiment: I recorded the timestamps of the last 50 e-mails in my sent messages folder. These timestamps covered one week of my e-mail behavior, starting on Thursday, October 22nd and ending Thursday, October 29th.
My interest was to measure when during the day I spent time on e-mail. Here’s what I found:

emailchart2
Notice that over this week-long period, I didn’t send any e-mail after 7:00 pm, and only one e-mail after 6:00 pm. There’s a good explanation for this discipline: I end all work around 5:30 every day. No Internet. No computer. No to-do lists. Once I shutdown my day, it’s time to relax.
I must emphasize that I’m not some laid-back lifestyle entrepreneur who monitors an automated business from a hammock in Aruba. I have a normal job (I’m a postdoc) and a lot on my plate.
This past summer, for example, I completed my PhD in computer science at MIT. Simultaneous with writing my dissertation I finished the manuscript for my third book, which was handed in a month after my PhD defense and will be published by Random House in the summer of 2010. During this past year, I also managed to maintain my blog, Study Hacks, which enjoys over 50,000 unique visitors a month, and publish over a half-dozen peer-reviewed academic papers.
Put another way: I’m no slacker. But with only a few exceptions, all of this work took place between 8:30 and 5:30, only on weekdays. (My exercise, which I do every day, is also included in this block, as is an hour of dog walking. I really like my post-5:30 free time to be completely free.)
I call this approach fixed-scheduled productivity, and it’s something I’ve been following and preaching since early 2008. The idea is simple:
  • Fix your ideal schedule, then work backwards to make everything fit — ruthlessly culling obligations, turning people down, becoming hard to reach, and shedding marginally useful tasks along the way.
The beneficial effects of this strategy on your sense of control, stress levels, and amount of important work accomplished, is profound.
The notion is not new. Tim Ferriss famously recommend strict time constraints in The 4-Hour Work Week. He argued that much of the work we do is of questionable importance and conducted at low efficiency. (He made a popular — if not somewhat dubious — appeal to Parkinson’s Law to support the point that more time does not necessarily lead to more results.) If we instead identify only the most important tasks, he said, and tackle them under severe constraints, we’d be surprised by how little time we actually require.
In this article, I want to tell the stories of real people who successfully implemented this strategy – radically improving the quality of their lives without scuttling their professional success.
Jim Collins’ Whiteboard

Jim Collins’ Whiteboard (Photo by Kevin Moloney for The New York Times)


(photo by Kevin Moloney for The New York Times)
Jim Collins has sold over seven million copies of his canonical business guides, Good to Great and Built to Last. He attributes the success of these books to his research discipline. As he revealed in a New York Times profile from last May, he leads teams of up to a dozen undergraduates in the process of information gathering. His books require, on average, a half-decade of time and a half-million dollars of expenses to get from their initial premise to the polished ideas. When he enters his “monk” mode to covert this research into a manuscript, he produces, at best, a page a day.
In other words, Collins is a hardworking guy. You would expect, therefore, that like many hard-charging business-world types he would be a blackberry-by-the-bedside workaholic.
But he’s not.
Scrawled on a whiteboard in the conference room of Collins’ Boulder, Colorado office is a simple formula:
Creative 53%
Teaching 28%
Other 19%
Collins decided years ago that a “big goal” in his life was to spend half of his working time on creative work — thinking, researching, and writing — a third of his time on teaching, and then cram everything else into the last 20%. The numbers on the whiteboard are a snapshot of his current distribution. (He tracks his time with a stop watch and monitors his progress in a spreadsheet.)
Collins is a pristine example of fixed-schedule productivity in action. An author with his level of success could easily fall into an overwork trap: long nights spent updating twitter, signing partnerships, building elaborate web sites and launching product lines, speaking at every possible venue. But he avoids this fate.
Even though Collins demands over $60,000 per speech, for example, he gives fewer than 18 per year, and a third of these are donated for free to non-profit groups. He doesn’t do book tours. His web site is mediocre. He keeps his living expenses in check so that he’s not dependent on drumming up income (he and his wife have lived in the same California bungalow for the past 14 years), and he keeps only a small staff, preferring to bring on volunteers as needed.
“Mr. Collins…is quite practiced at saying ‘no,’” is how The Times described him. (He once wrote an article for USA Today titled: “Best New Years Resolution? A ‘Stop-Doing’ list.”)
His fixed-schedule approach to life comes from his simple conviction “to produce a lasting and distinctive body of work,” and his “willingness…to focus on what not to do as much as what to do” has made that possible.
He’s not alone in reaping the benefits of the fixed-schedule approach…
Elizabeth’s Conversion
When Elizabeth Grace Saunders started her first business, a professional copy-writing service, her schedule has “hazardous.”
“I would answer e-mails after going out with friends,” she told me, “and stay up until 2 a.m. finishing projects.”
At some point, she snapped. “I’m not a secretary,” she declared. “I’m not required to jump to respond to everything that crosses my path.”
Saunders adopted a 40-hour a week schedule. This new structure had two immediate impacts. First, she found herself focusing only on the most important tasks. With only a few hours to spare on business development, for example, she couldn’t justify wasting time with the small, ineffectual website tweaks and exploratory e-mails that used to keep her up late into the night. Instead she focused on the core activities that produced results, such as sales calls or the development of new products. The focus generated by this constraint ended up generating more results than her previous schedule, which was more expansive, but also more scattered.
The second impact was her discovery that she could teach her clients how to treat her.
“I’ll answer your e-mail within 24 hours (not 24 minutes), I need notice before starting a project, I will say ‘no’ if my schedule for the near future is already full, and I might schedule meetings up to a month in advance.”
“Choosing how and when I respond to requests has had a dramatic impact,” Saunders notes.
Friends and clients were impressed enough with Saunders’ lifestyle that she eventually left copywriting to become a “time coach” that works with other women in business to achieve similar results. (Her flagship service is called a Schedule Makeover.)
Here’s a typical day in Saunders’ life:
  • She’s up at 6 and by 8:30 she’s at the computer.
  • The first 1 – 2 hours of her work day are spent doing what she calls “routine processing,” which includes checking calendars, clearing e-mail inboxes, and cementing a plan to follow for the rest of the day. As Saunders describes it, this morning routine prevents her from wasting time deciding how to start, and it frees her of the “compulsion” to be checking e-mail throughout the day.
  • She continues with an hour of sales calls. This is often the most dreaded activity for the solo entrepreneur. But by having a regular place in her constrained schedule, she avoids pushing it aside.
  • The rest of the day follows the schedule she fixed in the morning: usually a mix of client assignments and at least one business development activity.
  • By 5:30 she’s done.
Most entrepreneurs work well past 5:30 (and claim that this is absolutely unavoidable), but Saunders’ business is thriving. The reason is clear: her fixed schedule forces her to do the work that produces results (sales calls, client assignments, major business development activities) and eliminates the hours of pseudowork that many use to fill their day in an effort to feel “busy” (tweaking websites, compulsive e-mail checking, chasing down small business development opportunities).
Saunders is not the only young entrepreneur I’ve met who was surprised to discover that doing less helped the bottom line…
The Baby Factor
Michael Simmons, a good friend of mine, reported a similar story. His company, the Extreme Entrepreneurship Education Corporation, expanded quickly in the years following college graduation. Around the time I was reading The 4-Hour Work Week, I started to discuss the possibility that Simmons tone down the hours. It was his company, I argued, so why not take advantage of this fact to craft an awesome life.
Among the specific topics we discussed, I remember suggesting that Simmons cut down the time spent on e-mail and social networks.
“This isn’t optional for me,” he explained. “Any of these contacts could turn into a important partner or sale.”
But then Simmons’ daughter, Halle, was born.
Simmons’ work schedule reduced from 10 to 12 hours days to 3 to 5 hour days. He took care of the baby in the morning, then worked in the afternoon while his wife, and company co-founder, took over the childcare responsibilities. Evenings were family together time.
Halle forced Simmons into the type of constrained schedule that he had previously declared impossible. And yet the business didn’t flounder.
“The baby turns ‘shoulds’ into ‘musts’,” Simmons explained to me. “In the past I used to put off key decisions, or saying ‘no’, because I didn’t want to deal with the discomfort. Now I have no choice. I have to make the decisions because my time has been slashed in half.”
“Since out daughter was born about a year ago, our business has more than doubled.”
The Fixed-Schedule Effect
Collins, Saunders, and Simmons all share a similar discovery. When they constrained their schedule to the point where non-essential work was eliminated and colleagues and clients had to retrain their expectations, they discovered two surprising results.
First, the essentials — be it making sales calls, or focusing on the core research behind a book — are what really matter, and the non-essentials — be it random e-mail conversations, or managing an overhaul to your blog template — are more disposable than many believe.
Second, by focusing only the essentials, they’ll receive more attention than when your schedule was unbounded. The paradoxic effect, as with Collins’ bestsellers, or Saunders and Simmons’ fast-growing businesses, you achieve more results.
Living the Fixed-Scheduled Lifestyle
The steps to adopting fixed-schedule productivity are straightforward:
  1. Choose a work schedule that you think provides the ideal balance of effort and relaxation.
  2. Do whatever it takes to avoid violating this schedule.
This sounds simple. But of course it’s not. Satisfying rule 2 is non-trivial. If you took your current projects, obligations, and work habits, you’d probably fall well short of satisfying your ideal schedule.
Here’s a simple truth that you must confront when considering fixed-schedule productivity: sticking to your ideal schedule will require drastic actions. For example, you may have to:
  • Dramatically cut back on the number of projects you are working on.
  • Ruthlessly cull inefficient habits from your daily schedule.
  • Risk mildly annoying or upsetting some people in exchange for large gains in time freedom.
  • Stop procrastinating.
In the abstract, these are all hard goals to accomplish. But when you’re focused on a specific goal — “I refuse to work past 5:30 on weekdays!” — you’d be surprised by how much easier it becomes to deploy these strategies in your daily life.
Let’s look at one more example…
Case Study: My Schedule
My schedule from my time as a grad student provides a good case study. To reach my relatively small work hour limit, I had to be careful about how I approached my day. I saw enough bleary-eyed insomniacs around here to know how easy it is to slip into a noon to 3 a.m. routine (the infamous “MIT cycle.”)
Here are some of the techniques I regularly used to remain within the confines of my fixed schedule:
  • I’m ruthlessly results oriented. What’s the ultimate goal of a graduate student? To produce good research that answers important questions. Nothing else really matters. For some of my peers, however, their answer to this metaphysical prompt was: “work really long hours to prove that you belong.” It was as if some future arbiter of their future was going to look back at their time clock punch card and declare whether they sufficiently paid their dues. Nonsense! I wanted to produce a few good papers a year. Anything that got in the way of this goal was treated with suspicion. This results-oriented vision made it easy to keep the middling crap from crowding my schedule.
  • I’m ultra-clear about when to expect results from me. And it’s not always soon. If someone slips something onto my queue, I make an honest evaluation of when it will percolate to the top. I communicate this date. Then I make it happen when the time comes. You can get away with telling people to expect a result a long time in the future, if — and this is a big if — you actually deliver when promised. Long lead times allow to you to side step the pile-ups (which will bust a fixed-schedule) that accrue when you insist on an immature, “do things only when the deadline looms” attitude.
  • I refuse. If my queue is too crowded for a potential project to get done in time, I turn it down.
  • I drop projects and quit. If a project gets out of control and starts to sap too much time from my schedule, or strays from my results-oriented vision: I drop it. If something demonstrably more important comes along, and it conflicts with something else in my queue, I drop the less important project. Here’s a secret: no one really cares what you do on the small scale, or what things you quit. In the end you’re judged on your results. If something is hindering your production of the important results in your field, you have to ask why you’re keeping it around.
  • I’m not available. I often work in hidden nooks of the various libraries on campus, or from my apartment. I check and respond to work e-mail only a couple times a day, and never at night or on weekends. People have to wait for responses from me. It’s often hard to find me. Sometimes people get upset when they send me something urgent on Friday night that need done by Saturday morning. But eventually they get over it. Just as important, I’m not a jerk about it. I don’t have sanctimonious auto-responders about my e-mail habits. I just do what I do, and people adapt.
  • I batch and habitatize. Any regularly occurring work gets turned into a habit — something I do at a fixed time on a fixed date. For example, I work on my blog in the afternoon after lunch. I write first thing in the morning. When I was taking classes, I had reoccuring blocks set aside during the week for tackling their assignments. Habit-based schedules for regular work makes it easier to tackle the non-regular projects. It also prevents schedule-busting pile-ups.
  • I start early. Sometimes real early. On certain projects that I know are important, I don’t tolerate procrastination. It doesn’t interest me. If I need to start something 2 or 3 weeks in advance so that my queue proceeds as needed, I do so.
  • I don’t ask permission. I think it’s wrong to assume that you automatically have the right to work whatever schedule you want. It’s a valuable prize that most be earned. And results are the currency you must spend to buy it. So long as I’m actually accomplishing the big picture goals I’m paid to accomplish, I feel comfortable to handle my schedule my own way. If I was producing mediocre crap, people would have a right to demand more access.
Conclusion
You could fill any arbitrary number of hours with what feels to be productive work. Between e-mail, and crucial web surfing, and to-do lists that, in the age of David Allen, grow to lengths that rival the bible, there is always something you could be doing. At some point, however, you have to put a stake in the ground and say: I know I have a never-ending stream of work, but this is when I’m going to face it. If you don’t, you’ll let this work push you around like a bully. It will force you into tiring, inefficient schedules, and you’ll end up more stressed and no more accomplished.
Fix the schedule you want. Then make everything else fit around your needs. Be flexible. Be efficient. If you can’t make it fit: change your work. But in the end, don’t compromise.
Cal Newport is an MIT postdoc, author, and founder of Study Hacks, the Internet’s most popular student advice blog.

Monday, May 14, 2012

Logic of Life: The Rational Economics of an Irrational World

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-logic-of-life-tim-harford/1103588767

All those behavioural economics and psychology books are starting to blur together to me. I bought this book about a year ago. I recently stumbled up it again and thought that I'd forget to finish reading it. I opened it up about half way through. I remembered reading that chapter and knew how it ended. I didn't remember the next chapter., so I skipped forward. Same result. I had read that chapter before, but I didn't know what the next chapter was.

This happened all the way to the end.

I have a growing problem with these type of books-- they promise deep thoughts on important subjects, but really they are just a bunch of interesting stories all strung together. I wonder how these books are authored. Does the author really start with a theme and then work forward to write a book. Or does he turn interesting studies into stories until he has enough content for a book.

Having said that, there are a couple of concepts in the Logic of Life that want to remember. Like the "Split the Cheque Problem" where people behave differently if they know their bill is going to be paid by other people. This problem can explains high CEO pay (The pay costs each individual share holder a few dollars, not enough for any one shareholder to do something about it) or protectionism in trade.

Also "Incentives Matter." Sure, self discipline and acting etically are important. But, time and time again, people do what they think will make them happy, even if it's undiciplined and unethical.

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain
http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/quiet-susan-cain/1101870221?ean=9780307452207

When a friend learnt that I was reading this book he became a little worried. He associated introverts with those quiet people who do their own weird thing, and don't participate in the rest of the world. Why should they get more power? Is good to have a book showing them how to do so?

I didn't tell my friend this, but the book is not a manifesto for introverts to take over the world. Rather it's an exploration of a more balanced approach-- there are strengthss to being an introvert, there are also pitfalls. The book discusses how to leverage the strenghts and avoid the pitfalls.

Don't use introversion as an excuse to not communicate. You may not want to speak to many people, but there are ways areound this. You can email, you can have small one on one conversations, you can be persistant with your questions. But, being an introvert is not a license to not act on or share important information that you know or to stand back and not make a difference.

Take your quiet time. Introverts need quiet time to recharge. Use. it.


Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Quiet Leadership by David Rock

What I want to remember... when coaching people, ask questions that encourage them to think about their thinking. Focus on "What can be done in the future" not so much as "What went wrong and who is to blame?"

There is much more to the book than this, but that's all I can hold in my head right now.

I think the other read "Made to Stick" before writing this book. There are a many processes and techniques that are given too-cute names. For example Step 5 is called "Create New Thinking" Create is an Acronym for "Current Reality." "Explore Alternatives" "Tap their Engergy."

The high level steps are usefull though...

Step 1. Thinking about Thinking.
Step 2. Listen for Potential.
Step 3. Speak with Intent
Step 4. Dance Towards Insight
Step 5 Create New Thinking
Step 6 Folow Up.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

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Thursday, January 19, 2012

My Health Numbers...

08/12/2007
  • Total Cholesterol 148
  • HDL < 15
  • LDL NA
  • TriGly 193
  • Glucose 81

9/27/2010
  • Total Cholesterol 181 mg/dL
  • HDL: 21 mg/dL
  • TriGly: 222 mg/dL
  • Fasting Glucose 87 mg/dL
  • BMI 26.92
  • Body fat 24%
  • Waist 40.4
  • Blood Pressure: Diastolic 84. Systalic 119


10/05/2011
  • Total Cholesterol 200 mg/dL
  • LDL 150 mg/dL
  • HDL: 34 mg/dL
  • TriGly: 81 mg/dL
  • Fasting Glucose 84 mg/dL
  • BMI 24.84
  • Body fat 19%
  • Waist 36
  • Blood Pressure: Diastolic 74. Systalic 107

1/19/2012

  • Total Cholesterol 178 mg/dL
  • LDL 120 mg/dL
  • HDL: 36 mg/dL
  • TriGly: 111 mg/dL

7/26/2012



  • Blood Pressure: Diastolic 70. Systalic 1100
  •  Total Cholesterol 194
  •  LDL 127
  • HDL 37
  •  TriGly 91
  •  Fasting Glucose 82
  •  

  • 10/23/2012
    • Blood Pressure 113/66
    • Total Cholesterol 183
    • LDL 130
    • HDL 34
    • TriGly 95
    • Fasting Glucose 90
    • Body Fat 18%
    • Waist 36
    • BMI 25
    9/16/2013
    • Blood Pressure 104/72
    • Total Cholesterol 170
    • LDL 137
    • HDL 33
    • TriGly 87
    • Glucose 88
    • Body Fat 19.5
    • Waist 36
    • BMI 25.7
     10/15/2014
    • Total Cholesterol 193
    • LDL 131
    • HDL 37


    10/16/2015


    • Blood Pressure 119/67
    • Total Cholestorol 187
    • LDL 126
    • HDL 27
    • TriGly 171
    • Glucose 89
    • BMI 27
    • Waist 39
    • Body fat 23

    10/30/2018
    • Blood Pressure 127/77
    • Total Cholesterol 231
    • LDL 167
    • HDL 33
    • TriGly 126
    • Glucose 85
    This is the highest my cholesterol has every been. Dr. wants me to loose 15-20 lbs. He is OK with the keto diet. 

    10/1/2020

    • Total Cholesterol 177
    • LDL 121
    • HDL 36
    • TryGly 109

    3/9/2022

    • Total Cholesterol 196
    • LDL 135
    • HDL 38
    • TryGly 128
    • Glucose 97
    • 217.2 lbs
    3/9/2023
    • Total Cholesterol 201
    • LDL 144
    • HDL 37.8
    • TryGly 95
    • 219lbs


                 9/27/2010 10/5/2011 1/19/2012
    Total Cholesterol 181       200      178
    LDL                   150 120
    HDL             21 34 36
    TriGly         222 81    111
    Glucose              87 84
    BMI 26.92 24.84
    Body Fat 24 19
    Waist 40.5 36
    Diastolc BP 84 74
    Systolic BP 119 107

    7/26/2012
    BP 110 over 70

    Tuesday, January 10, 2012

    Seneca's Letters from a Stoic

    Seneca's Letters from a Stoic is a classic book on the stoic life. Like all Greek philosophy, It applies to daily living.

    It is regrettable that modern philosophy is of increasingly obscure use.

    Some quotes...

    "Philosophy calls for plain living, but not for penance"

    “We shall be rich with more comfort, if we learn how far poverty is from being a burden”

    “When you are travelling, there must be an end; when astray, your wanderings are limitless”

    "It is a most miserable state to have lost one's zest for dying, and to have no zest in living"

    On the balance of curiosity.... "What pleasure do you get from wasting your time on these problems, which relieve you of none of your emotions, rout none of your desires?" To which the response is... "Must I be ignorant of the heights whence I have descended?"

    "The place where one lives can contribute little towards tranquility it is the mind which must make everything agreeable to itself."

    “It is more important to keep the resolutions you have made than to go on and make noble ones.”

    “Liberty cannot be gained for nothing. If you set a high value on liberty, you must set a low value on everything else.”

    Thursday, January 5, 2012

    The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman

    Timothy Ferriss

    A very fine book. It's changed the way I eat and exercise I've lost 25lbs as a result.

    You Learn By Living

    Eleanor Roosevelt

    I read this six months ago. It's pleasant, kind of reminded me of a pre-seven-habits book on being effective. I'll skim again.

    Consider Phlebas

    Iain M. Banks

    A fun but very trashy sci fi novel, set in an interesting universe, but appears to have no purpose other than to put it's lead character into one deadly situation after another.

    The Grand Design

    Leonard Mlodinow, Stephen Hawking

    Hawking to endorses multiverses and the strong anthropic principle-- much of the universe exists the way it does because if it wasn't that way, we wouldn't be here to observe it. It does leave open the question what are possible variables of all universes?

    Marilyn Monroe

    From a story about the auction of Marilyn Monroe's estate http://www.slate.com/articles/arts/doonan/2012/01/was_marilyn_monroe_fat_her_secrets_revealed_.2.html

    Marilyn Monroe was a huge movie star, but she owned diddly-squat. She was not materialistic!

    Marilyn’s estate was a bunch of poignant schlock. The auction raised more than $13 million, but not because of any intrinsic value in the numbered lots. There were no Renoirs or Picassos. Her knickknacks were pedestrian. Her cookware was greasy. Her spatulas were bent. Even her Golden Globe was broken.

    The majority of her clothing showed surprising wear and tear. She had worn it all repeatedly and there just wasn’t that much of it.

    Her jewelry? With the exception of her DiMaggio wedding ring it was a bunch of paste danglers and costume crap.

    Shoes? Yes, there were several pairs of black suede Ferragamo stilettos with worn heels. But Marilyn—brace yourself for another shocker—was more into books than shoes. Her poignant desire to cultivate her mind and give herself an education resulted in an extensive library of first editions. Take that, Carrie Bradshaw!

    This stunning lack of materialism made me love and respect her more. What do you need in life other than a good book, a few capri pants, and a cotton sundress or two?

    Yes, there were a few fur coats. But compared to the gimme-gimme-gimme stars of today whose hangar-size closets are bursting with freebies, she was a total bread-and-water-eating, hair-shirt-wearing, self-denying nun